Getting over an ex is one of the hardest things one can ever do.However,it is important if you must move on and live your life.
Back in school,i had this girl that really got me going 'wow'.She was everything a man could ever want in a woman.She was smart,brilliant,intelligent,confident,pretty,had good sense of humour,good dress sense.In short,she was just perfect.But situations just couldn't let it last.She broke up with me with sensible reasons.I was shattered.Food became annoying,i talked less,went out less,thought more and if not that i hate crying,would've cried.But i got over her and moved on within a reasonable period.How i did it?
1. I accepted the fact that she was gone
This was the first step to my getting over her.Rather than sit there and hope for her to return,i accepted the fact that she was gone and thought of ways to get over her.
2. I deleted her number from my phone
Even though i still had her number in my head,i deleted it from my phone so i don't get tempted to call.The urges came,but i was able to suppress them because the number wasn't in my phone and i didn't want to dial it.
3. I started going out more
I made sure i had people to go and visit,because each time i am alone,i start thinking about her and i needed to get rid of everything 'HER'.
4. I stopped being friends with her
I couldn't risk feeling pains all over again,so i just stopped being friends with her.
5. I made a list why it was better she left
I made a list of reasons why it was better we broke up.This list helped reduce the pain of not being with her.
These were the steps i took to getting over my ex.I hope they help you too.
If you feel you have tips to add,tips that helped you get over your ex,please feel free to leave a comment.
These are nice tips,although when i had my breakup,i immediately entered into another relationship and this helped me alot.But somehow i think one does not relly get over and ex.
ReplyDeleteYou can actually get over an ex,but only if you want to.Everybody has several other persons they can love.With the tips i gave,and other good ones,you will get over an ex completely.
ReplyDeleteBasically getting over ur ex is an issue which we all must have derived and applied our different formulas based on how your relation was.Deleting her number from your phone is a nice approach towards getting rid of her but not a proven technic as you still have it in your head,rather having the zeal and determination of keeping your distance from her is a better way of getting over her and keeping yourself occupied with other activities...When my ex broke up with me,i found myself always wanting to call her to hear her voice even though there was nothing between us any more,but i realised the more i kept myself busy,the more i forgot about her and there was this day i decided to call her,i dialled her number on my phone but it wasnt there and i quickly consulted my brain for her number,Lo and behold,i dialled a number which i thought was hers but it wasn't hers as the receiver picked up and told me it was a wrong number,i thot it was some kind of joke and i tried the same number again and same receiver picked up,only then did i realise that keeping myself busy and occupied has naturally deleted her number from my brain and that was how i overcame the urge of call her.
ReplyDeleteHowever,rushing into a new relationship on a rebound will leave you heartbroken again so you should take precautions before moving into a new one and also sit down to play the whole scenario of your past relationship and try to figure out what actually went wrong then work on your own lapses so you can have someone better than your ex who will appreciate you for who you are cos if your ex did then he or she wouldn't have left you in the first place.
When i got over my ex and started a new relationship,i was a complete different man from my old self and alas,i've been happy ever since then.
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Andersei Tivere S. has made a very useful contribution.Like i said in the article,they were steps i took to getting over my ex.So,different things work for different people.Thanks Andersei Tivere S.
ReplyDeleteAll true. for the ladies,A woman can get over a lost love, but only if she's willing. She must consciously block him from her heart and mind. It's not easy at first, but it does get easier. Once she evicts the guy for good, she can move on to the passion and happiness she deserves. benny.
ReplyDeleteb4 leavng and ex, a lady or guy need to count the cost and genuine reasons for doing so in order not to feel like going back. most do not really define what they want from a relationship and that is why confusion sets in. there is no sin in a break up if it is notgoin 2 work out
ReplyDeleteThank you for your responses Ay and Benny.
ReplyDeleteGreat Post! In my Opinion Feng Shui can help in getting over a broken relationship and getting into a new relationship again.
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