EXPECTING TOO MUCH
When you're in a relationship,you should know what your partner can or cannot give.Expecting him to give beyond what he has is stretching his patience and also your boundaries.The resultant effect is that this makes him feel inadequate or lazy.You know he cannot afford a Gucci for now,go for something cheaper.You know he cannot take you to a fancy restaurant,go to a neat and cheaper one.
WANTING HIM TO BE SOMEBODY ELSE
Yes i know you have the picture of your perfect man in your head.If he doesn't fit the mental image of what you carry in your head,please let him go.Don't try to transform him into being that which he is not or you'll only end up eroding his self esteem and making feel inferior,and believe me,you don't want him to feel inferior because that is one sure way of making him withdraw from you.
COMPARING HIM WITH SOMEONE ELSE
This is one quick and sure way of driving away your man.Comparing him with someone else?We men like to feel we are the best in our partners' life,and if somehow,they make us feel we're not,then we interpret it as not loving us.Inasmuch as a whole lot of us will deny this,we have got huge 'Egos' and we don't like it being bruised.
NAGGING
Yes,we like a partner that can stand up for herself,make her point known,refuse to be pushed around,and make us see our wrongs.But we definitely do not like partners that 'nag'.This accounts for the reason why you sometimes go to spend the weekend with your boyfriend,and rather than spent time with you,he spends it with his friends or in a bar.
CHOKING HIM
I know you want to spend quality time with him.You love him so much that you don't want him to leave your sight.But by all means try and control yourself.Following him around,to the club,to the bar with his friends(on guy's night out),to the gym,to the salon.Gosh,you're only going to choke him.We like spending time with the boys,respect that and encourage it (except if he has irresponsible friends).
JEALOUSY
So he was talking on the phone with a girl,but you said it yourself that he loves you
and shows it too.Why would you allow jealousy cloud your sense of reasoning?Have you considered the possibility of the girl being his cousin or his married friend?Don't get me wrong,it is totally ok to be jealous,but please watch it.Quit the unnecessary questions.Asking about his whereabouts every time he walks in is way overboard.
HAVING MAJOR MOOD SWINGS
It is pretty normal to have mood swings,but believe me,it is annoying when your bad moods outnumber your good moods.Hence,watch it or you just might give us the wrong signal and send us running for cover.
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I wrote an Article on the same topic and came to check it for the term 'How to chase a Guy away from you' and found your article too on the first page. You would find that we have some similar views on this subject.
ReplyDeleteDear Anamika,
ReplyDeleteI am not surprised,seeing that guys and girls alike when it comes to certain subjects such as this.I'll check your blog also,i'm sureyou'd have interesting posts.